AadenSage

The Birthday Project | Sending gifts of hope to parents who have lost babies | Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Infant Loss | by Ashlee Proffitt & The Morning

Every October we celebrate my son Aaden’s birthday.

This year he would have been 9 years old.

It’s impossibly difficult for me to imagine him as a 9 year old since he will forever be a chunky little almost-6-week-old baby in my mind.

Celebrating the birthday of a child who no longer lives on earth is as hard as it sounds, but when you’re a mama, you’re a mama forever, no matter if that little one is still with you or not. Celebrating Aaden’s birthday isn’t really a choice; it’s a part of me. He’s a part of me. Forever. Ask any mother and no matter how much time has passed, 1 year, 6 years, 9 years, 20 years — she can probably recall even the most minute detail of the day her baby was born.

So celebrating his birthday isn’t really a question, but more so  “How should we celebrate Aaden’s birthday this year?”

And we celebrate as best as we know how, by doing all the fun little things we imagine a boy his age would want to do — by eating donuts for breakfast and pizza for dinner, going to the movies or the beach or both, eating ice cream and making birthday cakes, and talking about the day he was born.

But my favorite birthday tradition started in October of 2013 when we celebrated Aaden’s 5th birthday with the AadenSage Birthday Project. We decided that the best way to celebrate his life was by sending hope to other parents who were grieving the loss of a baby, by giving them a tangible reminder that their baby was not forgotten and forever loved. And since then every October we send out HUNDREDS of prints to parents grieving the loss of a baby.

If you or someone you know if grieving the loss of a baby and has experienced miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss I would love an opportunity to send a small gift of hope and reminder that their baby is forever loved. Check out all the details and send a gift of hope: The AadenSage Birthday Project . *The AadenSage Birthday Project will close November 15, 2017 and reopen October 1, 2018.

The Birthday Project | Sending gifts of hope to parents who have lost babies | Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Infant Loss | by Ashlee Proffitt & The Morning

Dear Aaden, Today is your birthday. What a gloriously special day to this mama. And though you would be seven today, this mama remembers the day your were born as if it were just moments ago. You were a sweet surprise to us. Making your arrival only 16 months after your big brother was born. […]

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December 15, 2008. Exactly one month after my son died I sat across the table from a woman who changed the way I viewed Jesus. Only one month after I said goodbye to my baby and I felt like the entire world had moved on. Forgotten my son. Forgotten my pain. My heart was in shambles […]

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Dear Aaden, October 8, 2008 was a pretty spectacular day, the day you were born. Mommy’s do not quickly, if ever, forget the story of their little one’s entering the world. I remember so many details about that day and yet so much is fuzzy. An enormous part of my heart wishes I could go […]

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November 15. I still avoid you. I will even pass by milk with that expiration date. November 15 is hard. And ugly. And so utterly painful. This day 5 years ago I found my perfect, healthy, beautiful 5.5 week old baby boy not breathing. A mother’s nightmare. To call 911. To wait in a waiting […]

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AadenSage would have been 5 years old on October 8. As a parent the idea of celebrating the birthday of a child no longer here is unimaginable. Until you’re in it. Until the depths of death have surrounded you. Until everything within you wants to ensure your child never forgotten. Until all you want to […]

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Dear Aaden, Today is your 5th birthday. We will celebrate you today. We will play Candy Land and giggle at Asher’s excitement. We will go out for donuts because let’s be honest, we know that’s how a 5 year old would want to start his birthday celebration. (And I am sure Andrew will have no […]

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For most, this time of year is so refreshing. For me, this time of year is very difficult. Very, very difficult. My heart is heavy. I have a huge knot in my throat and tears in my eyes. October 8 is Aaden’s birthday. He would be 5 years old. What a crazy, crazy thought. I […]

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Words cannot express my gratitude for the overwhelming response I have received since I launched AadenSage and wrote this blog post. My heart is in awe of God and how He has worked in my life. Honestly, I am humbled to do such a big and important work. I am so grateful for Ms. Whitney English who, after […]

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November 15th is a day that will forever be marred to our family. It is a day that represents deep sorrow and pain and terrific loss. November 15th is the day that I found our almost 6 week old son lifeless and not breathing. November 15th is the day that I screamed a horrific scream […]

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